Are you crying and obsessing over spilt milk?
If so, where has that got you so far?
Just think about this for a moment, will you?
My guess is that whatever has happened to you in the past, whatever injustice you have suffered, whatever unfortunate happening has occurred, if you have spent days, weeks, months, years, obsessing over that situation, it has not changed your circumstance by one iota!
Am I right?
So why do we do this?
Why do we repeat negative thought and behaviour patterns that have proven over time to be non-effective, even perhaps self-destructive?
May I encourage you dear reader? May I suggest something to you that might seem challenging?
Get over it! Move on!
Dear reader, I am not being harsh or unfeeling and I am not being unsympathetic. Believe me, I’m speaking firstly to myself and then to whoever happens to be reading this post, to whom my message may apply.
- Quit mourning
- Quit obsessing
- Quit cursing, nursing and rehearsing
I get it. You feel bereaved.
Someone’s words or actions have left you feeling angry, or bereft, even savaged. And you are hurting over that sense of loss.
- Do you acknowledge what happened? Yes!
- Do you allow it to be your focus, to the point that it immobilises you? No!
Stop nursing the hurt or outrage. Stop revisiting the scenario in your mind. Stop allowing it to haunt your waking moments, your get-into-bed routine. Stop examining in minute detail what was said or done, how it made you feel, how you wish you could make that person pay for what they did, or how their words, their actions, have left you feeling used and abused, or rendered you bottom-of-the-barrel in the estimation of others.
- Are you not permitted to be open and transparent about how you feel? Yes!
- Should you begin to manipulate the responses of others toward those who’ve hurt you? No!
Quit cursing, nursing and rehearsing:
Refrain from rueing the day you ever got involved with so-and-so. Stop wishing God will take vengeance—on your terms! Stop vowing to never speak to that person again, or deciding I will never, ever allow myself to be hurt in that way again.
And definitely, absolutely, stop talking about it in negative terms to other people. Stop filling the ears of friends and loved ones with “tales of the un-respected”. Stop inviting others to share your biased view point.
Stop being a victim!
A change is as good as a rest!
So what should we do if we consider ourselves to be a victim of someone’s malicious gossip, spite, or unwarranted attack?
In the natural realm, whenever we’ve sustained wounds, whenever we experience a debilitating or potentially harmful condition, we take appropriate action. We seek expert advice and assistance.
And, if we’ve applied corrective measures, if we’ve been operated upon, we require recuperation. We allow time for a full recovery.
Now during this period, how well do you think we’d recover, if we kept removing the bandages, or undid our stitches and began poking around in our wounds?
How do you think we’d be received, if we invited everyone we knew to look at our sores, or examine our scars, again and again?
Woman of God, what if you should find yourself in need of surgery, or some other form of medical intervention? Would you think or believe that you will never recover, regain strength, return to your normal self? Of course not!
You trust the surgeon. You believe the prescribed medication will do its job. You know if you adjust your lifestyle and obey the expert’s directions, you will eventually bounce back.
In fact, dear woman of God, if in the natural, you did sustain a sore or serious wound, would you not apply salve, or seek appropriate assistance in order to alleviate pain and encourage healing? Would you not consider it irresponsible to allow it to fester unattended?
So why not apply this same way of thinking when it comes to your emotional hurts and wounds?
Women of God – Apply that Spiritual Salve!
Biblical truth reveals:
…he (Jesus) was wounded and bruised for our sins. He was beaten that we might have peace; he was lashed—and we were healed!
(Isaiah 53:5 The Living Bible)
So who is the expert when it comes to inner hurts?
Who can and has prescribed the correct spiritual remedy for your specific ailment?
Who can assist you in your recovery programme?
The Holy Spirit!
Do you believe this? Then may I encourage you dear reader to accept the opportunity for inner healing that Jesus’ blood has purchased for you? May I encourage you to take advantage of the wonderful and FREE spiritual resources that have been made available to us as children of God?
What are those resources?
- The Word of God.
- The person of the Holy Spirit.
Dear women of warfare, I am not only seeking to encourage you to increase your prayer life, pray fervently and effectively, I am also wanting to encourage those to whom it is appropriate, to adopt better behavioural patterns, so that we are not stumbling through life as walking wounded women (victims) but living as authentic, spiritual overcomers (victors).
I am seeking to inspire you to imitate Jesus, trust your Father-God and co-operate with the Holy Spirit.
As women of God, let’s rise up to the level of thinking and acting that enables us to experience abundant life—the life for which Christ so cruelly suffered, in order that we might freely enjoy.
Are you with me?
Then let’s start by making a personal pact with ourselves. Let’s quit mourning about what cannot be undone. Let’s stop obsessing over the whys and the wherefores… the he said this and she did that… the if only… blah blah blah.
After all, if it’s not changing the situation, if it’s only entrenching us in ungodly and self-harming paradigms, leading us into self-sabotaging re-actions—is it not foolish to continue engaging with such pernicious ways of thinking and behaving?
Women of Warfare followers and visitors – arise and shine! Let’s make a quality decision to allow the love and power of God to become our focus, so that his glory can be seen upon us and can be manifested both within and through our lives.
From now on, let’s make a decision to quit mourning and moaning about the past and move on.
Let those in agreement, say aye or Amen!
Do I enjoy playing the victim, or am I willing to change?
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